Hospitality sends me to the hospital

Whenever anyone talks about hospitality it makes me sick. Why? You  ask. Because we have made hospitality into a mirage of hypocrisy (what ever that means, I don't even know). Lets cut to the case (because I know you are bored already) my point is this: God wants a cheerful giver.  Here are some inserts from the trusty bible that I use to prove my points (I am such a sinner) from Romans 12,  "If your gift is to encourage others, be encouraging. If it is giving, give generously... And if you have a gift for showing kindness to others, do it gladly. Don’t just pretend to love others. Really love them... Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other." What I have seen in the Church and in my missions experiences is this, we do all the right things... for all the wrong reasons. We make meals, give cards, clean houses, shake hands, smile but we do it because we are supposed to. This is the kicker, we need to do these things because we want to. God wants our genuine love not our fake put it on when people are around love. THIS IS HOGWASH!!! I hated when people came over to my house as a kid. This meant clean this, clean that, don't touch this, don't touch that, and most of all be on your best behavior. I wanted to tell the people that came over to "visit" that they had ruined my day. Or how about this, someone doing a missions school was asked to be on hospitality (which is a "work duty" we have but she hated it because that meant you clean and put everything in order to the point of if there was a thread out of place she would have to fix it. Seriously. I would kill someone if I had to do that. If you make your kids clean so you look good then you have an issue, just a FYI. Cleanliness is not next to Godliness!  Or check this, "hospitality" said to someone that they can't settle in to much because they wouldn't want other guests to feel awkward. Haaaa  we have created grumbly givers and faces that we put on in front of company. Shame on us! This is want I want out of hospitality and you can agree or disagree. I want a personal connection (not a silly card) to someone who will invite me into their normal life and treat me as one of their own. That is hospitality to me. If you or you made others make me food and it wasn't done out of kindness THEN I AIN'T COMING OVER!!! If you made your children clean so that I would feel "comfortable" THEN I AIN'T COMING OVER!!! So if you come to my house don't expect it to be perfect, it will be the same as if you weren't there but I will invite you into a time where we can serve each other out of genuine love (at least this is what I strive for). This has been your weekly rant with Marshall. 

P.S. If you keep reading these you might have to go to therapy.